The Secret to Staying in Touch With Friends

Let’s face it. Keeping in touch is hard work. Even though we meet so many cool people through our lives, it’s difficult to be constantly caught up on how their lives are going. But being far away doesn’t mean that you can’t stay close—it just means you have to take a little bit of a different approach. Here are five easy ways to get out of your communication rut and connect with your friends.

Send Memories

Resurfacing happy memories that we shared with our contacts is a great way to get back in touch again. However, it takes a lot of work to remember a specific event with a specific person from an unclear amount of time in the past. Facebook and Twitter have started to address this by resurfacing posts and photos that happened an integer amount of years ago. These resurfaced posts are convenient methods of reconnecting, but they may not encompass the most important memories.

Social Media Is Your Friends

Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. are practically made for low-key conversations. Scroll through your contacts, and when you see a post that makes you smile, respond. You probably spend a lot of time on social media anyway. You may as well get something useful out of it.


Remember Your Friends Birthdays 

In the Facebook era, people can get hundreds of birthday messages. But they still matter, and going outside the structures of Facebook makes you stand out. Everyone loves when the birthday phone rings or when they get a birthday email. This is a great way to stay in touch and just drop them a quick email.

Make It a Habit

If staying in touch with people is a priority, then set aside 15 minutes a day to do it. The good news is that once this is a regular part of your life, you’ll automatically start looking for reasons to contact people. People will start responding, too. Reaching out feels like less of a chore when there are “Great to hear from you!” emails in your inbox every morning.


Genuinely Care

The most important habit of friends that are good at networking is that they actually care about us. These friends are there for us whether we are up or down. They will reach out to us and ask if everything is going okay with no intention of gaining something for themselves. They are ready and willing to put in work for little-to-nothing in return. These friends are keeping in touch with us because they genuinely want to know about our lives.