Her Facebook post is making life in high school easy for her son.
Like 90% of all parents, Missouri mother, Cara Thulin was worried about sending her son to high school as a new freshman this year, but her apprehensions were not born of the usual mom agitations. Rather, her son Damien “Zeke” Gibson is an autism patient- an autism spectrum disorder (ASD). She was bothered about how his colleagues and staff would treat him. So, she resorted to Facebook to educate students, staff, and parents about her son and autism in the expectation that it would aid him to fit in at the new school.
“This boy is part of your family now. And I crave you all to assist me,” Thulin penned in a Facebook post on August 24, attaching a snapshot of Zeke’s high school id. She further explained that Zeke’s brain “developed differently” compared to other people’s brains.
“His senses are heightened r than ours,” she inscribed. “So while we were growing up and listening and focusing on her parents and other babies…and learning and watching how to act, behave and respond…he was focused on the manner sun hit his mom’s hoops, or how noisy the dog was…and he completely missed out on all the social skill drilling we did not even recognize we were receiving.”
Thulin informed Scary Mommy she wrote the post to teach the students and staff at his new school the information they require to understand Zeke. After a tough spell in middle school, she wanted to make things easier for him high school. The fact that Zeke would be attending a school three times the size of his middle school, she had to make adequate preparation this time. she was scared he would encounter the same difficulties on a bigger scale.
“I cannot go around with a sign that says, ‘This is Zeke, he can be a slightly strange. Please, be nice to him,'” she told the Springfield News-Leader. “I thought if they understood him, things will be so much easier .”
It’s tough, she said, for guardians with children with unseen special needs — or any other form of special needs, — to get their child on a level they can compete and relate with the rest of their classmates.
“I am always scared about him being shown patience, love consideration, and a fair shot,” she informed us. “It always appears easy because few people understand that autism does not always seem like Dustin Hoffman in ‘Rainman,’ it’s almost intolerable for them to know how to instruct an individual on the spectrum.”
Thulin says she fears her son’s gestures and manners might look impolite, resistant, or not responsive to instructors and peers. Wanting to make the switch stress-free for her son, she provided staff and pupils numerous counsels on how to relate with her son. Say, “Hi Zeke!” if you see him, she said. She recommended inquiring about what he is doing and whether he loves his lessons, or to laud his band t-shirts (Panic! At the Disco is a favorite). She also reminded people that because he has ASD, Zeke’s replies might be unrelated. He might not respond or he might gaze at the ground, she wrote.
“But deep down, he knows you care,” Thulin wrote. “I appeal to everyone to make him feel better because he is aware when people laugh at him. he notices people they laugh at him. He just does not understand why”
Thulin completed her post appealing to all parents to join her on child-rearing voyage. “I am nurturing a very VERY tough youngster,” she said. “I crave your indulgence to raise very compassionate kids in return.”
Thulin’s post clearly hit the nerve o other parents. Till now, the post has been shared more than 2,000 times and she is getting encouraging posts from people all over the globe. She desires to give people salient understanding and knowledge of what it means to have ASD.
Zeke is in his third week of high school and is thrilled to go every morning. His instructors have been cooperative and suited to his needs; they honestly want him to succeed. She has found love, compassion, and an overflowing support from folks who are not just accepting Zeke, but eager to be part of his life.
“There is such an enormous increase in the number of kids with the autism spectrum,” she said “We cannot continue to ask them to adapt and work around us. We need to adapt and work around them. Why? They are amazing individuals, and they merit every single opportunity in the world.”